Over my two decades of fairly mediocre life, I have learnt that most people live behind a mask. That mask might be one of false happiness, fake aspirations or phoney confidence. This however is not necessarily a bad thing, but something that we all experience as we wade through life, and something that is completely vital if you are to successfully get through it.
It therefore comes to my mind now, on the eve of brand new 2016, that people should no longer vow to change for the next 366 days (leap year don’t forget!), but instead promise only to become who they really are. And no, I don’t mean start wearing tie-dye and bangles whist backpacking through somewhere in Asia that you’ve never heard of, but instead simply stepping back from the mask and revealing who you really are, and who you really want to be to those around you and to yourself.
It is one of the most difficult things to differentiate: what you want to do vs. what you think you want to do. After all, we spend the majority of our lives being moulded by education, and instructed on what our intelligence means in regards to the rest of our lives. If you’re good at English you’re told to be a writer, science you’re told to be a doctor and so on. It comes at no surprise that we go through the rest of our day’s believing in the same values. People vow to do better at work this next year yet honestly, they hate their jobs. People vow to socialise more when in fact they love nothing more than being alone reading their book. People vow to finally find the one when truth is, they’re still happy being single.
We go our whole lives living this way, trying always to do what we not only think is right, but what we think we want to do. This year I vow to only become who I really am, to stop making decisions based on any other reason other than myself – to basically become horribly selfish in only the best way.
Happy New Year everyone, I hope 2016 brings you everything you want – everything you TRULY want!